Supporting the narrative through “Science”

So I came across this article that says, “Women thrive as the primary breadwinner, while men suffer, study says“. Well since a study says this we must believe it, right? I mean, really smart people did a study, so there, men are not cut out to be primary breadwinners.

The article goes on to describe this study:

To examine the effects of household income dynamics on health and well-being, researchers looked at data from heterosexual married people across the U.S. who were between the ages of 18 and 32. Their most significant finding was somewhat surprising, said lead author Christin Munsch, PhD, an assistant professor of sociology at the University of Connecticut: As men took on more financial responsibility in their marriage, their psychological well-being and physical health both tended to decline.

Men were worse off during years when they were their family’s sole breadwinners—with psychological well-being scores 5 percent lower, and health scores 3.5 percent lower, on average, than in years when their partners contributed equally.

Well, researchers looked at some data and determined that men don’t do so well when they are the primary breadwinners.

The one big problem with this is that it is an observational study, and as any statistician should know, cannot actually prove anything. Since they just looked at data, there is only a correlation between being the primary breadwinner and having a psychological well-being score 5 percent lower. (What is a psychological well-being score? Sounds important; I better force my wife to work.)  To actually prove that being a male primary breadwinner causes psychological damage you would need to do a causation study.

What would a causation study look like? You would need to round up some volunteer families (at least 100 for good statistical significance) and then randomly choose some families to have the husbands to be the primary breadwinner, and other families to have a shared responsibility. (If you want to prove anything about the wives you would need to choose some to have the wives be the primary breadwinners.) You would then wait a few years, and revisit the families to do follow up psychological and health evaluations. If the primary-breadwinner husbands did have poorer psychological well-being scores, you can say it was the fact that they were forced to be the primary breadwinner.

However, rounding up families and telling them, who can work and who cannot, isn’t a very ethnical study, nor do I think it would even be possible. So, we are left with just an observational study. The only thing this study can say is that there is a correlation between husbands being the primary breadwinner and having a lower physiological and health score. It cannot prove that being the primary breadwinner causes the lower scores anymore than lower scores causes husbands to be the primary breadwinner. The observational study cannot rule out other compounding factors that might lead to the poorer scores.

But, why let a silly thing like statistics get in the way of proving the author’s conclusions. According to the article, the author concludes the following:

Our study contributes to a growing body of research that demonstrates the ways in which gendered expectations are harmful for men.

So, no where in the article does it provide any evidence that women thrive as the primary breadwinner, as the title states. The observational study only states that women who are the primary breadwinners don’t show a difference in their scores.

So, women should feel free to ditch their kids in daycare, it will do your husband good! Right?

So here are the problems:

First of all, what is a psychological well-being score? What questions were asked to come up with this well-being score? Are the questions biased in a way that could influence male, primary breadwinners to provide lower scores. Think about this question, “You feel satisfied with how much time you spend with your kids,” on a scale from 1 to 10. Just because you would like to spend more time with your kids could be interpreted as having poor psychological well-being.

But the main problem I see with this study, is that is only includes married people from ages 18-32. Guess when most college-educated, married people first have kids? 30. So, the people in this study primarily focuses on the following married people:

  1. People who married while in college or shortly after (small percentage of married people).
  2. People who do not have kids yet.
  3. People who never went to college and got married in their 20’s.

Whose’s missing? That’s right the majority of college-educated, married men and women currently raising kids. Most college-educated men and women don’t start having kids until their 30’s, and these people are absent from the study. I wonder why they stopped asking married people over 32? Could it be that if older people were included in the study that the author wouldn’t get the results she wanted?

But don’t let that get in the way of the author’s conclusion. Please, women go out and be a cubical slave for corporate America, while your kids rot in daycare (they are a lot easier to brainwash that way). Trust me, your psychologically damaged husband can’t handle the pressure of providing for your family, but you can (you go girl!). (Unless he got a good education and career, but never mind that.)

So here’s what is going on. A young girl goes through years of college brainwashing telling her that she is better than men (you go girl). She gets her PhD in sociology (focusing on gender studies) and realizes that not many people have a need for a gender-biased sociologist, so the only job she can get is one that teaches the same worthless stuff. However, in order to keep her job, she needs tenure. In order to get tenure, she needs to publish. She is in a publish or have a man support her die position, (as most young professors are).

She sets up a “research lab” where “The overarching goal of her research is to identify the ways in which contemporary, dual earner families organize interaction based on a traditional, breadwinner-homemaker model and the consequences of this mismatch for individuals, relationships, and the reproduction of inequality.” – ie. to prove that traditional marriage roles (outline the the Proclamation on the family) is damaging individuals, relationships, and family.

Well, she can’t publish an article that supports traditional families, that would go against her college supplied brainwashing that women are better than men. Plus, most people in her field will be offended by such a result, so she tweaks the data (or looks for data) that support her predestined conclusion. Never mind the fact that it is only observational, and no conclusion can be reached. Like minded gender study professors eat it up and publish it. She then finds another like minded journalist that pretty much allows her to make any claim she wants. They publish it in the main-stream media, so eyes everywhere will see another “Women are awesome, men suck” headline as the browse the new.

Goal achieved, another little article to keep the anti-masculine narrative seeping into our heads.

Why your daughter can’t get married

Before you go and blame all of those “man children” and “peter pan boys” for the lack of suitable mates for your daughter, you should really examine what it would mean to marry your precious little princess. I know that you might be upset that your daughter will not have the happiness you want her to have, or you have now realized that you will not have a righteous posterity you thought you would have. It is easy to direct that anger towards the rational thinking young men you have insultingly called peter pan boys, instead of getting to the painful truth on why your daughter is not seen as a good marriage prospect.

She isn’t attractive

There are several reasons why those rational thinking young men do not want to date or marry your daughter. The most likely cause is that your daughter is simply not attractive. The most likely reason why she is not attractive is that she is fat and out of shape. Now before you shame young men for not “seeing past the extra 20 pounds of fat and into her inner beauty,” put yourself in their shoes. Would you want to marry a fat chick? Remember, if your daughter is carrying an extra 20 pounds now, that will probably multiply into an extra 150 pounds after she has a few kids (also known as fat potential). An extra 150 pounds on a wife comes with a lot of downsides for a husband.

First of all, it’s hard enough to convince an in-shape wife to develop a good sex life with you. A wife carrying an extra 150 pounds isn’t going to feel to sexy very often, and thus make it even harder to convince her to take off her clothes. Plus, having sex is a workout that might be too much for someone 150 pounds over weight. Before you start saying “well sex shouldn’t be that important, and I only have sex with my wife 1 or 2 times a year, what’s their problem,” just think about how painful that has been for you. Men feel love through sex, and there is nothing wrong with that. That’s how God designed us so that we can have motivation to stay faithful. When men don’t get a lot of action with the wife, they don’t feel loved. If a young man actually does marry your daughter, he will be signing up for a marriage relationship where he will not feel loved most of the time. This sex-starved future son-in-law of yours will then be much more vulnerable to attacks from Satan to look at porn, and cheat on your daughter. You know full well how painful it can be when your wife rejects you, and in a world where temptations are much more prevalent, it’s going to be a lot worse for him.

Secondly, being out of shape says something about your daughter’s “inner beauty.” It say’s, I’m lazy and spoiled. Would you want to marry a lazy wife? If you do, that means your the one that will have to wake up early, get the kids ready for school, make their lunches, take them to school, work all day, come home to an upset wife who doesn’t have the energy to deal with the kids for another minute, make the dinner, clean up after dinner, and put the kids to bed. After you have done all of that, you still don’t get any sexual attention because your wife doesn’t feel sexy enough. Instead, she takes you for granted, continues to get her social media fix, and just talks about all of the stuff she wants you to pay for. Doesn’t sound very fun does it. I know that there are some health reason that can cause people to get fat, but those are pretty rare. Being fat means that in most cases you are too lazy and undisciplined to workout and eat right. If that is the kind of daughter you have, then don’t expect some young man to sign up for a life of pain and torture to be with her.

Essentially, if your daughter knows how to keep her self in shape and does it, then she will be attractive to quite a few men. There are plenty of men willing to date and marry girls that are out of shape, so there are a lot more that will want to marry your daughter that is actually in shape. If you want your daughter to marry a good man, one of the best things you can do for her, is teach her how to eat right and exercise.

She has an elevated sense of her Marriage Market Value

Another reason why your daughter isn’t married could be because you have told her ever since she was a little girl, that she is too good for the guys out there. You encouraged her “girl power” attitude, and told her about all of those stupid “peter pan boys.” You placed her education and career above marriage and family.

Since modern western culture tells this to girls constantly, all it takes for her to elevate herself above all of her marriage prospect is for you to stay silent. She goes to college, and ignores the boys who actually do like her enough to marry her. She has the hots for the one or two boys all of the other girls want, and ignores all of the other ones that might actually ask her out.

Remember that girls will only marry up. If they think they are all that (because I’m going to be a doctor), then they will think they are too good for most guys.

She’s career driven

Although there might be some boys willing to sign up to be Mr. Mom, career driven girls are not helping their attractiveness. They are just making themselves too important and too busy to date. Usually marrying a career driven girl means you will need to work AND be Mr. Mom while your wife if off wasting her time  saving the world in a cubicle (probably while hanging out with other men more attractive and interesting than any Mr. Mom could be.)

She’s too “Spiritual”

I don’t think there is anything wrong with being too spiritual. It is a quality that I looked for in a wife. A spiritual wife will be a faithful, loving wife. However, a lot of people think that in order to be spiritual you have to be innocent. Instead of being in tune with the spirit and really communicating with God, you get women (and men) who are virtue signaling, and horrified by a little potty humor.

If your daughter is sooo spiritual, that she cannot watch PG movies without being horrified by a little potty humor, you have a daughter who is not fun to hang out with. Who wants to be with a wife who is always offended by anything funny; who can’t see the humor of a 7 year-old making a fart joke or (gasp) a penis joke; who can’t think sexual thoughts? Who wants a wife that thinks chocolate is against the word of wisdom? Not only is she not fun to hang around, she also makes you feel guilty because you don’t virtue signal as well as she does. She has unrealistic expectations that you should always cry, and use “the holy ghost” voice in a testimony meeting.

She Has no Nurturing Skills

Like the rest of western society, you are offended that girls should be taught to care for and nurture children. You didn’t bother to teach your daughter how to cook. (Who has time for cooking when you have a career and other girl power pursuits to think about?) She doesn’t know how to sow. She doesn’t bring anything of value to the relationship (except sex), yet you expect young men to man up and marry her.

Conclusion

There are other reasons young men don’t want to marry your daughter, like being a spoiled brat, too high maintenance,  etc. But before you accuse all young men of being peter pan boys hooked on porn and video games, give a good look at your daughter and think, would she be a good wife for me? Is she even worth hanging out with?

The fact of the matter is, most young men want to marry a good looking, feminine wife. Since there aren’t a lot of girls that fit that bill, of course they would rather play video games.

 

Alpha Parenting Move: Getting your 4 year old dressed

You know the struggle you have in getting your 4-year-old dressed. Here is an easy way to have him dress himself (once he is capable).

  1. Find out his favorite toy and talk about how great it is and how much you want one.
  2. Get his clothes laid out next to him and keep talking about the toy and how much you want it.
  3. Mention, I know, if I get you dressed you will owe me something, and I think I will take your toy (in a joking way).
  4. Get “distracted” and leave. ie – “oh, I forgot to brush my teeth”.
  5. Come back to a smiling, proud, dressed 4 year-old talking about how you cannot have his toy.

Job done, no fighting, a lot of fun had for you and your kid.

Are you iAssimulted?

I got the term iAssimulted from the Hawaiian Libertarian. Although he mostly talks about mobile phones in that article, he has another article that talks about digital entrapment. Working with the zombified youth of today, it is pretty clear that almost all youth (boys and girls) are addicted to their daily dose of Satan influenced brainwashing digital media. Most adults are as well. Just look at most parents, as they look at their phone watch their kids.

There are two forces at play here. First, almost everything we do on the Web is “free”. However, programmers who make it all work are some of the most highly paid professionals today. So how is all of this free? Ads. Every product you buy gives companies money, who spend that money on advertisements and marketing, a lot of which goes to ads on the Web. So, to earn money, they need people visit their web page, so they can see the ads and earn the Websites revenue. Companies have put in a lot of research into what makes people visit a Web page. Since spying on your Web habits is pretty easy, companies are easily able to gather a lot of information about you and what you do online.

They use all of this information not only to target you but to also predict what your behaviors will be on the Web. They learned how the subconscious mind works. Since Web page views means more money, digital media companies have pretty much figured out how to keep you on their website as long as possible, and how to get you to come back.

The second force at play is your own mind. There are two main parts to your mind, the frontal cortex (or thinking part of your brain), and the limbic system (or the instinctual part of your brain). The limbic system is where your heart beat, respiration, etc are controlled, and your thoughts live in the frontal cortex. Although everyone want to believe that the frontal cortex is controlling what you do, it really is the limbic system that has the ultimate say. For example, everyone knows not to breath underwater or you will drown. However, after a certain amount of time, the limbic system will override our conscious thoughts and force the body to breath and drown itself, despite the fact that the victim could have survived a few minutes longer without air. Since your limbic system is pretty much just the same as everyone else’s, this makes it pretty easy for companies to figure you out, and “force” you to view their pages longer, and to keep you coming back for more.

The main driver in all of this is dopamine, which is the hormone your body uses to motivate you (cocaine happens to be a synthetic form of dopamine). Dopamine is the feel good hormone that you get whenever you do something that helps you survive. Eat a good meal and you get dopamine. Go running, get dopamine. Have sex, get dopamine. Dopamine is how the body motivates you to live a purposeful life.

Unfortunately, your body cannot distinguish how you get dopamine. Anything “good” will give it to you. Finding out new information is one way to get dopamine. Get an email, get dopamine. Find out your friend is getting married on Facebook, get dopamine. Find an article specially designed for get you to click on it, get dopamine. And thus, we get addicted to our phones and digital media.

When we start getting cheap sources of dopamine (drugs, porn, digital media, and even the manosphere), we start becoming dependent on it. Ever have the feeling, an anxious feeling, that you need to get online? You limbic system is feeling a drop in dopamine and is worried that you might die if you don’t get some. It then starts to cause fear and uneasiness, and it directs you to get another fix of dopamine.

One other issue at play is neural pathways. Neural pathways are your brain’s way of turning on autopolit. When you showered this morning, did you have to put a lot of thought to it? Neural pathways develop as you repeatedly do things. It allows you to shower while thinking about something else. It allows athletes to get really good at their sport through practice. Everything comes automatic for them. The worst thing a field goal kicker can do is actually think. Just turn his mind on autopilot and let him kick the ball the same way he has done a thousand times in practice. It would be better for a field goal kicker to think about sex while kicking a field goal than it would be to think about kicking a field goal and risk not following his neural pathway.

So, when your limbic system starts craving some dopamine, it just finds the a neural pathway it knows leads to dopamine, and like an obedient slave, your phone comes out, the password is typed in automatically, and your favorite media floods your brain with cheap dopamine. Your limbic system feels like it has done it’s job and solidifies your neural pathway even further.

Cheap dopamine has two effects on you. First, you waste a lot of time and miss out on a lot of experiences. Second, earning dopamine the hard way (like eating healthy, working out, having sex with an actual person, productively earning money, etc.) doesn’t seem worth it. Facebook and other digital media keep giving you cheap dopamine without putting forth much effort. It’s hard for things that are real to compete. However, despite the cheap dopamine making you feel good for a few hours, you know deep down you haven’t accomplished anything. Usually depression will hit you. Plus, you haven’t done anything to actually increase your status among others, nor God.

Unfortunately, we use this “drug” to buffer us from the realities of this world. Feeling tired, pull the phone out. Stressed about your homework, pull your phone out. Girl might reject you if you ask her out, pull your phone out. Working out might make us feel like a wimp, pull the phone out.

You can’t really live and experience this life, if your main source of dopamine comes from watching TV, looking at your phone, playing video games, attention whoring on social media (like most women do), texting friends, etc. Some people miss the most significant moments in their lives because they are too worried about attention whoring documenting it on social media.

All of this is used to buffer you from really living. So here is what you can do about it.

  1. Commit to changing and ask for God’s help.
  2. Change the password on your phone and computer. This will give you a chance to jump out of your neural pathway, and develop a new one.
  3. Use browser plugins like StayFocus’d or LeechBlock to limit your time online, and limit which sites you goto. Although you can easily skirt around them, at least you have something to knock you out of a neural pathway when your time is up.
  4. Move your favorite apps around on your phone, change the way you get to your favorite sites. Delete bookmarks, or reorganize them. All of these little changes will give you a chance to jump out of your neural pathway. Be careful because if you keep forging ahead, your neural pathway will adjust to the new things pretty quickly.
  5. Learn how to deal with you emotions. First you have to identify them, next learn how to deal with them. This will probably include getting exercise, relaxing, meditating (both prayer and yoga-ish stuff), reading books, doing actual work, and even talking to your kids, friends, and family members face-to-face.
  6. And once again re-commit and fix what went wrong when you slip up into your old ways.

Sometimes a full reboot is needed. Go a full month without any news, social media, TV, video games, etc. Disconnect as much as possible. Then when you reconnect, be careful and set strict guidelines. Schedule your media time, and use settings to get the content you want most. On Facebook for example, set up a small group of people that you actually want to receive updates from. Then you can use that group to only get updates from them.

It won’t be easy, but once you start to experience real life again, you will be glad you committed to change. You might be surprised when you actually start feeling the spirit again.

Also, be warned. Cutting dopamine will make you miserable for a few days. You will find that you will lose your temper more often, have cravings for old habits, and be depressed. But it should go away in a few days. I’m not a psychiatrist, so if you start to go crazy please see one. If you already are seeing one, ask his advice before cutting the plug.

How to find a good wife

In my previous post, I discussed if Mormon Men should still consider getting married now that Marriage 2.0 is in full effect. After educating yourself on the risks you will be taking when you get married, and removing a majority of LDS girls off of your list, you might be thinking that there are not any good girls left. However, there are a few hidden gems still out there. In this post, I want to give some general advice to help you find one of the few remaining good LDS girls. Hopefully, since most young men will let the chemical rush in their brains do their picking, you will be able to use your logical brain to pick out the hidden gems.

First of all, you need to have realistic expectations; you need to know your Marriage Market Value (MMV). Knowing how valuable women see you can be painful, but useful information. If you don’t have girls chasing you down all the time, it probably isn’t too high. However, learning game and getting into good shape will definitely help. You have to play the long game here. You need time to build muscles and build a strong frame (6 months to a year). Use this time to observe gender dynamics in your ward. Who are the slutty girls and how do they act? Who are the attention seekers? Who are the 1 or 2 guys in the ward that all the girls want? What qualities do they have that create this attraction? What do guys do that causes them to crash and burn? As you learn game, you will be able to accurately predict girls reactions. Hopefully you will be able to practice overcoming the chemical rushes in your head as you interact with girls, and see them as they really are.

If you are a super alpha 10, then you might be able to attract the hottest girls around. But remember, girls always want to marry up. So if you pick a 9 you have to be a 10, and continue being a 10 even after you marry. You will have a much better chance at attracting a 7, and then make her an 8 or 9.

So after you have learned game, and improved yourself, I would look for a cute but shy girl in the 7 range. Make sure you vet her for anything that indicates she not be good wife material. Make sure she is feminine, mentally stable, not a feminist or a liberal, wants to be a stay-at-home mom, and is willing to work hard. Vet her background as much as possible. Check out her social media accounts for anything suspicious. I wouldn’t be scared of RM girls, especially now that most girls are going on a mission, but if her mission gives her some sort of feeling of superiority that could be a warning sign. If she hasn’t gone on a mission, you should probably find out why not. Is she selfish and didn’t want to give up her time to serve? Does she have medical problems (mental problems)?

Next, apply your game and attract her. Don’t just take her on standard, run of the mill, dinner and a movie dates. Hopefully, you can take her to enjoy some of your hobbies (but not your main hobby). You should have a main hobby that is too manly for her. Make sure you have a strong frame and she knows it.

Girls like to follow strong men. Even though she will be brainwashed into the feminine-primary social order, you can lead her out. Point out some observations you have noticed. Slowly teach her the red pill WITHOUT pointing her to websites. Bring up articles where women falsely accuse men of rape, point out how women at BYU want to behave bad without a consequence.  Be really slow or you might freak her out. You should see her start adopting a red pill attitude without even know what the red pill is. Remember, girls will naturally follow good strong men. If she is good marriage material, you will see her adopt your thoughts and attitudes.

So the overall plan is 1) Improve yourself and build your MMV. 2) Find a girl who doesn’t know how cute she can be. 3) Undue the feminine-primary indoctrination by leading her out. 4) She will grow in confidence, hopefully pick up your fit lifestyle and become hot. 4) Vet her like crazy for anything that shows potential marriage stopping qualities. 5) Get Engaged. 6) Vet her for symptoms of good girl syndrome. Remember it is protecting her, but make sure she can easily adopt a sex positive attitude once married. Make sure she knows that you will be having lots of sex and that she is okay with it. 7) Marry her. 8) Cure her of any remaining good girl syndrome. 8) Have kids and live a happy life.

I know it is a lot harder than it sounds. The key is picking out a girl unaware of her potential value, and then develop her into the perfect wife. Here are some good signs you are on the right track. 1) Your friends and roommates will be a little surprised you picked her to ask on a date. Not too shocked (like “Wow! you are asking the ward fattie on a date.” shocked), but more like “huh, why her?” As you progress in your relationship, your roommates will soon start to show respect and admiration for you, as they start to see how great of a girl you have gotten (or made).

There are several other strategies you can employ, and this is only one way to approach your dating life. In todays post-feminist world, this strategy could be your best bet. Good luck, and don’t get kicked out of college as you sexually harass ask a girl out.

Should Mormon Men get Married?

Dalrock has a post about Brad Wilcox’s plea for young men to step up and get married, along with the MGTOW’s response. I have been wanting to do a post about this for a while, so here are my thoughts.

Before getting married, men need to know the realities of marriage 2.0. Dalrock has a two post series about getting married in today’s new reality. You need to know the risks you are taking when you do decide to marry, and if you do decide to marry, you do need to choose wisely. I would recommend following his advice in both deciding if you do get married, and also who you should marry.

Since the LDS community is different, there are some observations that I have noticed that you should take into account.

First of all, both LDS young men and young women are still taught that sex outside of married is strictly forbidden. This is a very good thing. The chances of meeting a virgin LDS girl is much higher than meeting a non-LDS virgin girl. (Even most Christians are not virgins when they get married.) As an LDS man, I would never consider dating a non-virgin girl, let alone marrying one. This girl will have all the power of the state to destroy your life. It is not worth the risk. This especially includes divorced women. Don’t think that just because a girl is LDS means that she won’t rip your kids away from you, throw you in jail for “domestic violence”, get your temple recommend revoked, make it so you cannot get sealed to another women, etc. If you do get married, you do so at great risk. Choose wisely.

First, you should not assume that every LDS girl is a virgin. You need to investigate and make sure she is a virgin very early on in your relationship. You need to know her dating history. Did she kiss a lot of guys? Was NCMO her thing in college? Did she have a serious boyfriend all through high school? You goal is to determine how much resistance she has to her “rationalization hamster”.

All girls have a “rationalization hamster”, or a series of conscious thoughts (or temptations) that allow a girl to rationalize committing a sin. In other words, when a women’s hind brains detect that an alpha bad boy has good genes, her conscious brain starts working on a plan to make it “okay” to fornicate with him, even though she knows it is a sin. The good thing about the LDS community is that fornication and divorce are still looked down upon, and women do get shamed for doing so. Also, good LDS girls have a strong testimony and do not want to displease God. Although this leads to “good girl syndrome” when girls do get married, it does a pretty good job at keeping girls virgins until they marry, and keeping wives from straying afterwards.

However, as Mormon culture slowly adapts to the world culture, don’t be surprised to find your wife having an affair and you getting blamed by everyone for “domestic violence”. Then she uses the power of the law to toss you out of your house, the the bishop to excommunicate you, your sealing canceled, and her new boyfriend being her new “eternal companion” raising your kids while you live in a poor neighborhood slaving away to support your ex-family. Although this is the worst case scenario, it should serve as a warning on how a girl’s rationalization hamster can completely destroy your life. Your wife’s rationalization hamster can work overtime to find a way to “morally” replace you for a better man.

The best sign that a girl has weak hamster resistance is immodesty. Most girls seek out sexual attention by using their bodies. LDS girls have been taught not to be immodest. If the temptation to gain sexual attention through immodesty is to strong for a girl to resist, then she has weak hamster resistance. A lot LDS college girls I see have no problem putting on a bikini, wearing yoga pants, and otherwise be immodest to not only gain sexual attention from males, but also to show up their female “friends”. You cannot trust that an immodest girl like this will resist the many temptations she will have to cheat on you. You cannot trust her to not spend yourself into crazy debt for the best clothes, the best house, and the best car. You cannot trust her to resist the temptation to “have it all” by ditching your kids in daycare while she becomes a corporate slave. You cannot trust her to put down her indoctrination devices phone and actually pay attention to your kids, clean the house, and cook good meals.

Other signs of weak hamster resistance is exclusive dating in high school, gossiping and being mean to other girls, large amounts of debt, etc. Don’t marry psycho girls either! Check into their past mental health history. Although you probably don’t want to marry a fat girl, being fat and out of shape is also a sign of weak hamster resistance. In fact, a good way to see if a girl has weak hamster resistance is going running together. There are lots of girls (and boys too) that cannot even run a mile without stopping. Once it starts to hurt a little, they give up and start walking. If they cannot push themselves through the pain it takes to get in shape, I doubt they have the self-discipline to resist a hamster. Keep in mind, just because she can run well is not a guarantee she will make a good wife, but if she cannot run a mile, I doubt she can stay off Facebook while she is suppose to be watching your kids. Almost all of the couples in my married student ward where the wife was fat, ended up divorced.

Of course, you need to avoid all career driven girls. If you go out with a girl who does not freely talk about her desire to be a good mother, next her. If she seems more interested in her career than her dating life, next her. Career driven girls are selfish and will have little time for you, your kids, and absolutely no energy to keep up a regular sex life. Next any girl who has any career aspirations. Next any girls who hates cooking and taking care of kids. Next any girl seeking attention on social media. Next any girl who “needs to see the world” (which is really saying they will get bored with you).

Remember, your have a hind brain too. Attractive girls have the ability to shut down your logic center, and flood your brain with feel good chemicals. Don’t let this stop you from properly investigating a girl’s background, and her potential for being a good mother and wife. You do not want to marry someone who will nag you, not have sex with you, be a horrible mother, and potentially ruin your life just because she once filled your brain with feel good chemicals.

I would say though, if you do find the right girl, it is worth it. Married life is a million times better than single life. Holding your brand new son or daughter in your arms will be a moment you will never forget, along with the many other memories raising kids brings. Sharing your life with a beautiful, feminine, Godly girl that trusts you, helps you, works with you, and of course is intimate with you will bring more happiness into your life than any other way. Even if my wife tosses me aside tomorrow, I will still have all of these wonderful experiences that have enriched my life beyond anything that single life would have given me. But, it only works with the right girl.

So, what should you do if you do not find the right girl? Don’t settle! It is better to be single than married to the wrong girl. If a bishop, or parent, or anyone else nags you about getting married tell them the truth about why you are not married. Tell them you don’t want to be married to a career driven girl that doesn’t have time for you or kids. Tell them you don’t want to be married to an immodest, slutty girl. Tell them you do not want to marry a social media attention seeking whore. Tell them you do not want marry a girl who has no motherly parenting skills. Tell them you do not want to marry a fat lazy chick who’s idea of cooking is finding the nearest McDonalds. Tell them you do not want to marry a girl that cannot put forth the work it takes to make herself attractive. Tell them you do not want to marry a girl that will nag you all the time. Tell them you do not want to marry a girl that wants to spend all of your money and put you into crazy debt. Tell them you do not want to marry a girl who will only have sex with you once a year.

Flip the script on them. Everyone always assumes there are no good men left. Help them realize there are very few good women left. Help them realize that you do have the right to be choosy in whom you marry. Girls are told all the time not to settle, so boys shouldn’t either.

What if you never find a good girl to marry? Haven’t women been told that if the blessings of being married doesn’t happen in this life, that they will be blessed with the opportunity in the next? Does being a man exclude you from the same promise? I don’t think so. If you actively try to make yourself the best, most attractive man you can, and actively search for a good girl to marry and don’t find one, do you really think that God will judge you based on your sex?

If you do still want to get married, my next post describes a good strategy to take.

 

How Title IX is Hurting the Creation of Families

Let me start by saying that I do not condone rape, and think it is one of the most heinous crimes that can be committed. Even the Book of Mormon calls rape a heinous crime:

“For behold, many of the daughters of the Lamanites have they taken prisoners; and after depriving them of that which was most dear and precious above all things, which is chastity and virtue–” Moroni 9:9

I have daughters myself, and the last thing I would want for them is to be raped.

Since rape is such a heinous crime, I believe that it should be punished by the criminal justice system. Although not perfect, the criminal justice system it the best device we have as imperfect humans to be able to correctly convict rapists. The punishments should be severe, so we need to make sure we don’t wrongly convict innocent men.

However, colleges and university across the nation are now required hold tribunals to pass judgement on suspected rapists, and punish these rapist by not sending them to prison, but kicking them out of the university and making sure that they have a really hard time getting into another university. This is done under Title IX, which states:

 No person in the United States shall, on the basis of sex, be excluded from participation in, be denied the benefits of, or be subjected to discrimination under any education program or activity receiving Federal financial assistance.

So, if schools want federal financial assistance money (grants and student loans), they must comply with Title IX. As most know, this law eventually eliminated many men’s sports at college. In the 2012 election, Barack Obama and his team noticed that he might have a difficult time winning. He needed something that would give him an edge in the election. So, looking at the demographics, he noticed that the most likely demographic group that he could persuade to vote for him were women. So, he had the media invent a “War on Women”. He marketed himself as the Women’s warrior, and marketed Republicans as women’s enemy. (Oh the horror, Republicans don’t want you to kill innocent children complete sexual freedom (oh uh) reproductive health care.)

One way to convince them that he was looking out for women, was to use Title IX to force universities to clean up their “rape culture.” Rape culture is another phenomena invented by Social Justice Warriors (SJW’s) to help women obtain “sexual freedom”. As explained by Rollo, our culture and laws are being designed to allow women to optimism their hypergamous nature.

Now I am not going to dive into the statistics on whether or not there is in fact a rape culture on campus. I think there is an “alcohol and drug culture” on campus. Unfortunately, alcohol and drugs lead both men and women to make poor choices, and when a women makes a poor choice that is considered rape by SJW’s and the law. When a man makes an equally poor choice, he is considered a rapist by SJW’s and the law. So, if you send a bunch of 18-19 year-old boys and girls to a place with very little adult supervision, provide plenty of alcohol and drugs and sure, you are going to get a lot of “rapes”. I’m not saying that when a man purposely intoxicates a girl so he can have sex with her is not a real rape. It is. However, there is a big difference between that, and two drunk people having sex only to regret it the next morning. There is an even bigger difference than physically forcing a women.

So now, Obama is forcing universities to hold trials on sexual assault cases. Instead of the criminal justice system handling the trial, you have a bunch of SJW’s doing the trial. Most trials do not allow for due process, and accused men are assumed guilty and mostly likely will get suspended from their university. Some men never get to present evidence that could exonerate them (like messages from their accuser saying they enjoyed the supposed “rape” and hoping that they can do it again.)

If you have read the news, BYU’s Title IX office and BYU’s Honor Code office are not correctly handling these trials, according to SJW’s. Girls want amnesty from receiving punishment from the honor code office if they have been sexually assaulted, no matter what honor code violations they have done. In other words, they want a get out of jail free card. It makes since, because all of this push by SJW’s is to give women “sexual freedom”. They want women to be free to enjoy any kind of sex she so desires without having to face the consequences of their actions. If this push was to really stop rapes, they would take a different approach.

If SWJ’s really wanted to stop rapes, they would be instructing men and women about the effects alcohol and drugs have on their decision making process, and let people know that by drinking irresponsibly they put themselves at risk. When rapes really occur, they would be pushing for the criminal justice system to investigate and punish the rapist, so that we would have one less rapist on the streets to rape other women. They would be focusing on the alcohol and drug culture instead of the rape culture. Instead, they just want the university to hold trials which will never put the rapist in jail, but will certainly remove due process from men.

Why all of this? So that women will no longer have to fear the consequences of their actions (see this too). Removing fear from the consequences of women’s action is one way Title IX will hurt BYU’s dating culture. Giving women a get out of jail free card will allow women to make poor choices. If fear in girls is completely removed, girls will no longer need to worry about hanging out with alpha bad boys that will get them in trouble. Want to go a sketchy party with Mr. Hunk, go ahead. If you get caught claim there was a sexual assault. Want to see bad boy’s room, go ahead, a sexual assault claim will get you out of it.

The problem is that the people pushing for amnesty for girls from the honor code either do not know or are hiding the true sexual nature of women. Women are pedataslized for having a purer sexual nature than men. They don’t really have a purer sexual nature though. They just have a stronger filter on who they will have sex with. Once someone passes their filter test, women’s sexual nature is just as “impure” as men’s. Most women do not want to admit to having “such an impure” sexual nature, and most men are brainwashed to not see it. Look around, and pay attention. Women’s true sexual nature is all over the place (in movies, songs, TV shows, and real life) and pretty easy to notice once your eyes have been opened to it. (And yes, all women are like that.)

For both men and women, fear of consequences is one way we can control our sexual urges. I don’t look at porn because I don’t want to get divorced, lose my job, and fall out of favor with God. Fear of those things help me keep the law of chastity. So what will removing fear from women accomplish? It will convince more women to put themselves in situations to get raped. It will convince women to gravitate closer to the alpha bad boys they are attracted to, instead of help them choose better beta men that are better marriage material.

The second reason Title IX hurts the dating culture is that it allows women to kick men out of the university for an “illegal lack of game”. Men can get suspended for sexual harassment as well as rape. What is sexual harassment? Unwanted attention placed upon a female. The definition of sexual harassment isn’t very clear cut. Asking a girl on a date could be considered sexual harassment, because that could be unwanted attention. Giving a girl flowers is sexual harassment, if it is unwanted. Finding a girl after her class to talk with her could be considered stalking, which is sexual harassment.

I have verified this with one of BYU’s Title IX officers. Asking a girl on a date, if unwanted, is sexual harassment.

So, if good returned missionaries listen to talks by their bishops, stake presidents, and general authorities telling them to ask girls out, they could be sexually harassing girls. No one is telling them that in order to not be a creep, you must first build attraction in a girl before asking her out, giving her flowers, or “stalking” her. If the girl is not attracted to you, then asking her on a date is sexual harassment. Be a little too creepy, and she will turn you into the Title IX office, and you will be suspended.

Once word gets around that asking a girl on a date could get you kicked out of BYU, what do you think will happen. Once men start seeing their friends get accused of sexual harassment for trying to get a date, there will be a decrease in dating and marriages.

The solution to all of this would be to remove the Title IX office, and let the criminal justice system punish rapists. (Hopefully we can also keep the police reports in the cops hands and not BYU’s.) Instruct women about their true sexual nature and how it can get them into trouble – chasing alpha bad boys leads to alcohol, drugs, sex, and even rape. Seeking sexual attention by taking nude pictures of yourself can lead to blackmail. Men are constantly lectured to control their sexual urges; women need to hear it too.

One thing is for sure, giving girls amnesty when “sexually assaulted” will just lead to more rapes and less marriages.